Ooh, one last thing to say. I don't know how much he likes me being strong. Seriously. I think for some reason he prefers someone who is needier. (Sometimes he does, sometimes he doesn't.) So when I start emails off with asserting my strength ("I will lead her to. . . "), I think he is turned off.
The question is, am I supposed to change that about myself to assuage his ego?
I don't think so. If he were ever to be back with me, I'd want him to appreciate the strength I had for our daughter. And not wish that I was so low that he could 'save' me. At the same time, I would increase opportunities to point out and appreciate his manhood because I think that's what he wants.
