So far she has bent over backwards in allowing me to see my boys. This is just to keep me sweet....and dangling....
I spoke to the boys today and then her. I could feel the phone ice up in my hand. She accused me of stripping our account and taking all the money.
I told her that I had done as advised, and protected me and my boys. She said that some bills had come back unpaid. I explained that they had now been rerouted and were now paid.
I explained that the benefit payments that were due to go into our account were hers. I would not touch them. But my wages were mine. She whined saying that she only wanted to get some taxi money and felt humiliated. I said if she wanted anything for the boys she only had to ask - I would buy it for them, but I wanted to see here meet me somewhere in spending money in bringing up the boys.
I do not intend to give her the cash, but to buy the items the boys need myself.
(and keep the receipts)
The surprising thing throughout the conversation was her manner. Before - the first time she walked out - she would have shouted down the phone at me. This time it was very different. This time she was gentle and pacifying. Now she is going out of her way to let me take the boys to school tomorrow. I mean really going out of her way.
Then I get home from work....
I have had a phone call on the answer machine. You have one OLD message says the m/c This is ~~~~ from Family law just calling~~~~
She has played my phone messages, and knows I am not bluffing over the lawyer ..
Good.
I have noticed a difference in her manner this time now that I have set FIRM boundaries.
I need time to reflect upon this.
I feel that I should continue to push MY agenda, and in some ways , sod the consequences.
