V1olin's new life without wife

[v1olin]

Had an interesting night tonight at the last Divorce group before summer. The woman that I was seeing was there with her boys and my stbxw was there with both of our daughters. My D8 really likes my exGF.(can't think of a better term?) We only dated for 4 weeks and we are on good speaking terms now. My D8 says to her Mom, "See Mom, that's exGF right there!" as she points her out in the crowd. ExGF did seem uncomfortable because my D8 kept sitting with her and her boys so there we were, Me, stbxw, exGF, and our kids all sitting together.



Our D2 is potty training and wearing real underwear now so my stbxw was on edge. D2 would not go to the potty and stbxw was anxious that she would have an accident inside the building. We had extra shorts and underwear and she was also wearing crocks. I thought everything was cool. Everyone went outside and stbxw said to go ahead and her and D2 would catch up after going to try to potty again. After about ten minutes I decided to go inside to check on them. They were coming down the hallway and stbxw said, "Iam not having any fun at all. D2 still won't go to the potty." So I said, "Let me have her and I will make sure to take care of it." Stbxw went outside and sat on the playground bench and talked with some other women. I played with D2 on the playground until she started holding herself so I asked if she needed to potty. She said "no" and she kept holding herself. I asked her again and she said, "I have to go potty!" I picked her up and we ran to the bathroom. I sat her on the potty and she talked and laughed but no pee. She started to get down and I put her shorts back on. We went back outside and while I was holding her she pee'd on my arm and shirt!lol



I asked stbxw for the clean shorts and the other women were like, hey, uh, she is peeing RIGHT NOW on your arm! I said with a big smile, "I know, I just need the clean clothes." When stbxw and I were cleaning her up in the bathroom I told her that I tried to keep as least stressful as possible for her. She said, "I just remember that time at the childrens museum when D8(who was 2 at the time) pee'd on your leg." I said, "Did I get mad then?" She said, "yes, you were in a pretty grumpy mood all day." Then she said, "That was a MUCH better response this time." I could tell she was so releived that I did not blow my top or get in a cranky mood. I was such a downer all the time in those days and I know now how that affected her. Now, that does not mean I deserve to be cheated on but it paved the way for her to become attached to another man. One that was calmer, more confident and therfore, more attractive.


She thanked me for not getting onto a crabby mood once again before we left so I put my hand on her shoulder and just smiled. The physical contact is not bothering her at all lately.