You know NLT and CW I've thought that very same thing. I don't want the H that mine is now, back. Let ow have the depressed, surly, whining, sulking, arrogant teenager.
I put up with that for almost 2 years before H left.
Although he may have thought he was happy for a while with her there are many little incidences that show that things aren't all happy go lucky on fantasy island. For instance, when H had the D's out to lunch the weekend before last, ow texted him. H looked at his phone, sighed, opened it and texted her back. Put the phone away. A little bit later another text comes in. OW again. This time H sighs heavily, texted her back, snapped his phone shut and turned it off!
Now this is only a little less than 8 months into their R. You'd think the honeymoon would have lasted longer. I feel so bad for them... NOT!