But should I stoop to his level and send a text? Should I call instead and say

"9 years together and the sanctity of this marriage deserve for a husband and wife to discuss their marriage face to face. Not for everything to be done via phone. THis marriage is between you and me, not you me and OW or other outside influences. Since YOU WERE NOT ready to give me, the marriage and God the respect it calls for, THEN I dO not want to talk to you at this time concerning a divorce since I found out we're pregnant.I will go now and spend time with me family."

then hang up and turn off phone

M:27 H: 33
M:10/07
T:9 yrs
H moves away for drug recovery: 3/2010
ILYBINILWY & wants D:5/02/10
Confirmed OW:5/21
Told MIL:5/25(only concerned about H's recovery)
Told FIL:5/28(will speak to him)