Newbie.Trying with faith and hope to save marriage

[papayachic]

I sent him the text. "Sister's graduation. Reach me tomorrow evening"

He called back 5 minutes later and i panicked and did not pickup. He said,
"Hey, I got your text. First off congrats to your sis. Tell her Im really proud of her. But I called you twice in 2 days. I need to know if you've done anything to start divorce if not I have someone here who can do everything quickly as long as we're on the same page. Call me bacj so we can talk for 5 minutes because I really want to call him now".



While I was at the graduation dinner.
H's cousin's gf text me to see hoe i was doing. I told her I was shocked that he wanted a divorce and didnt want to even see me.

She told me that she assumed we were getting a divorce because a few weeks ago 3 or 4, (he told me he wanted a divorce 3 weeks ago), he brought a woman to the family summer house. All his cousin's and significant others were there. They stayed for a while. He did not introduce her as anything but they all assumed girlfriend. He made no effort to keep it a secret. THis family house is 10 minutes from the farm he's staying at.

Everyone, I am done. Whether this woman is OW or holisitc life coach or both, that was so disrespectful.
This was the straw that broke the camel's back.

I also found out on Sunday that I'm pregnant. Took 3 pregnancy tests and am just so sad.

I will go up there tomorrow and confront him at the farm. Will not yell or cry. Will only be there for two minutes.
Will say
"9 years together and the sanctity of this marriage deserve for a husband and wife to discuss their marriage face to face. Not for everything to be done via phone. THis marriage is between you and me, not you me and OW or other outside influences. When you are ready to give me, the marriage and God the respect it calls for, then let me know. I did not want to talk over the phone and came here face to face to tell you I'm pregnant. You let me know when we can discuss the fate of our marriage together" THen I will leave

Anyone, please, please....any advice