Originally Posted By: Gardener
Roller Coaster time approaching again. Be ready for a flood of emotion within you when its final and immediately thereafter.

Stay strong.
Thanks Gardener. You're right, I need to prepare for this. I'm already having a hard time just adjusting to the empty house during the weeks the kids are gone. It's also hard trying to get a grip on what has really happened over the past 18 years. Maybe I'll never really know, and maybe it doesn't matter, but I just don't want to repeat any of this.

The real kicker is that even with the divorce, I'll still have an R with her, still have all of this reminded to me every week, both her various infidelities and my own contributions.

Ok, my plans for preparing: First, this weekend I'm going to Florida to be with one of my closest friends. My wife has the kids for the holiday weekend, and I suspect she would sign the papers and give them to me right before she leaves town.
Second, I think I need to find some kind of divorce support group here locally. I can feel my friends growing weary.
Third, I need to really really get busy with my new life. I'm not sure what that means, but once I get the house refinanced, some new health insurance, and all my bills sorted out, maybe I can really get going.

Friends, got any suggestions for me?


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