Sorry for the lack of updates, here is how things are going:
had 3 days of and only 2 with W, on the morning of the 3rd day, W said she was taking a sick day as well, I was pretty shocked she wanted to spend that much time with me. We had a back and forth few days before that. Some good moments and then some bad ones.
She initiated intimacy twice this weekend, once I accepted and the other time (she had finished a few drinks) and I told her "I really do want to be intimate but not if your in this condition, I haven't been the best at being romantic and loving to you and if we are going to do this, it needs to be healthy for our R, and I don't think this is". She agreed.
Today she called to tell me about some friends new wedding date. She also said she told them that we were getting a D. I guess my response sounded abit disapointed and she asked if I was mad. I said i was because I don't want to give up on the M. Long story short, at the end of he conversation she said; "you were never very romantic and sexual with me, I want to be swept off my feet and experience that kind of movie romance. You didn't do that and I don't think you will but I haven't filed papers and I haven't left, so think about that." is that my challenge to be the H she needs? Could she be telling all these people to serve one of two purposes? A) she will leave or b) she will show me she is serious and see if I care enough to make the right changes?
Also, I need some advice of being romantic, as lame as it sounds I have a had time coming up with that stuff. Should I post something in the sex starved marriage section?
Also, through the grapevine, some of my co workers are finding out about the possible D. I am a pretty private guy and have a hard time dealing with publc displays of emotion. Any advice?
