You cannot make it work by yourself. He's the one in crisis and while he's in OZ, he has to be the one to work on himself. You can have faith and hope that maybe some day, he will wake up and realize what he's lost.
He doesn't hate you. It's the depression talking, just as it is his childhood calling him. Your h needs to grow up and accept the fact that you are not his mother and that he needs to learn that happiness comes from within. You did not break your h, therefore, you cannot fix him.
Now, you must let him go, allow God to work on him. It's important that you focus on you and your family. You now will have to think of this situation as a business deal in order to ensure that you are financially set.
I'm very sorry to hear about what he's doing, but I'm not surprised. It's time to take care of YOU!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
