Day by day I know it will get better. I am trying to take very long deep breaths when I start panicking and freaking out. I think I should give myself several days to think about any moves I should make in terms of decisions (ex: bank account). I just think it would be better if I thought about things more instead of reacting over emotion.
I am in contact with his mother. I have said that I am concerned for his well being and just think that he is on a self sabatoging path. I didn't really go into detail but I think I'm going to back off there. Probably wasn't the right thing to say in the first place but I can't go back. There have only been a few emails. Future communications I will try not to even mention WH and just have more chit chat about what's new with me and what's new with her, etc.
Luckily, all the bills pretty much are on automatic (which is why I hesitate to go moving everyhting around because its a good system for now).