WAH and LBW separated and dark

[Coach]

then at least explain to me why the bond is so different from everyone else's?

because it is his. he is not you, you are not him.

then i have nothing to go by except for my own interpretation.

which is based on your perspective and experiences. that's fine but it's not his interpretation.

detach, look in the fishbowl at the two of you.

i want to know the real reason why this is happening.
i want a chance to get through to his head how i truly hurt i was.
i need him to see that i was never a threat to his family or their relationship.
however, i need to know where i stand in with him.
i don't want to be a mother to him.
i want to be his wife.
i don't want to spend my vacation time, holding on to his jacket, cell phone, water bottle, snacks, etc. while he roams freely.
i want our vacation to be like our first.
when there was no pressure. just us. we did what we wanted, when we wanted, and how we wanted. it was just us. we had so much fun. i didn't think about what my parents would have thought.
i want to be lost in good conversation.
i want to learn about h. not h's parents.
it's not that i don't care but we can worry about the parents later.
i want him to want me.

those are all great goals. how can you get there?

trying to eliminate the anger.

first step in reconciling is getting rid of all the negative emotions. "there is no try, do or do not." - Yoda

i'm giving him space.
it's the biggest gift you can give a WAS, right?

IMO it's loving them just the way they are.


the cupcakes ready yet?