posting a link to another forum...espically THAT forum would have done it.
JacT...stop doing that here.
I basically said pretend you are your husband, and I'll be you.
Your motivation is to get away from me up to and including chewing your own arm off.
Ok, you in character?
Me:
"Dear, I want you to know that I am going to stand for us no matter what you say orthink because we said we would be together forever and ever and ever awhile back and right now I know that you are crazy and this is just crazy talk. I know what is right and I know deep down what you really want. So...for that I am going to stand for our marriage."
Ok your turn to respond as him.
I KNOW you are not going to say THAT...but I am willing to bet that is what he is going to hear.
which is basically:
"It doesn't matter what you say you want, I am going to do what I want."
So to sum up your question...No; do not say anything to him about Standing. Just do it.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
