What does this mean?- the WH's regrets?

[newmama]

I know- I don't get the whole acting like everything is fine; like what the spouse did turned out to be ok! It makes me think that they will be able to go around telling everyone that their wife is doing well and their child is good and not to worry. And they won't have to feel bad about what they are doing/did and won't have to face the consequences.

I get that we are supposed to look strong and act like we are carrying on fine without them. But at some point I think they need to see it is HARD on us. And then we get through it and move on!