Just found out she already filed

[ImprovedRomeo]

Thanks for the words of encouragement guys. I have a question for you who've gone through this process. Did they run the guideline numbers for you using DissoMaster? It says under the guidelines "# withholding allowances 13" for me and 1 for her. Does that mean I can claim 13 on my W4? I usually claim 1 and end up getting a tax refund when I file my taxes. 13 seems really high but maybe with child support and alimony it isn't? If I do take it to 13 based on some rough calculations my Net wage paycheck number matches what's on the dissomaster report and then there's a chance I can pay her $2k alimony while watching my spendings very closely.

CTH, I know it was dumb of me...don't know why I feel like I need her to see that I'm the victim here. I want her to have sympathy for me which sucks now that I think about it. She's still the familiar comfort who helped me through lots of decisions and problems in the past. She was who I confided in so it's easy to fall back into that mode when I see her and she just walks right over and sits next to me and start acting like nothing happened.