3.8 isn't perfect, is it? Geronimo, you're a guy, we always want to fix things, we think it's our purpose in life..."dear, you have a problem, I can fix that for you!" Whenever you talked with you're wife you probably had all sorts of suggestions for her and, if you were smart, kept them to yourself! Well, from reading your post, I'm guessing not! Hey, my buddy just had a five hour "listening" session with his wife ...they're going for marriage counselling soon. His point being that whenever they talk it's for her to tell him everything that's wrong with him and that's supposed to open up communication somehow. I can't wait to hear how the MC'ing goes. OK, enough of my pointless babbling. G, you're going through a terrible time, one where you feel everything is out of control. You want control, you want to feel that you're getting a handle on things. It's hard to do. It may be one of the hardest things in life to recognize that when things are out of control there's often not much you can do but fasten your seatbelt and go for the ride. What happened in the past happened. You made mistakes and she made mistakes, you're both human. But, you did the best with what you had. Now, in hindsight, you have more information and might have done it differently but so what! It's a pointless exercise.Look at getting through each day by finding one thing you like about yourself or what you've accomplished in the day. It's a start. I hope something in my mish mash of a post was helpful.
