Sandi, would you believe that she DOES have help? 5 days a week, all day long until I get home. My W is high-stress, overbearing and totally consumed by the kids.
What kind of help. I offered all sorts of help to my W: baby-sitters, nannys, extra daycare, etc. She didn't need that type of help. She wanted the dad to stay home with the girls so she could go out guilt-free to enjoy some alone time.
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I also wonder that if she wants to truly S then these crazy nights are something she's going to have to learn how to cope with.
She is thiniking of the days in-between when the twins are with the father and she will be able to enjoy that alone time.
gws, I was a lot like you. I went to MC thinking that she would give a little. Neither one of us did. My W did not feel supported and went and seeked out that support from somewhere else. It nearly ruined our M.
Your W is drained, as much emotionally as she is physically. The twins are draining everything from her. You are her teammate; she is currently injured and not able to play to her full potential. You can either be the teamate that will step it up play your heart out. Or be the one that complains that she is the reason your team is losing.
Don't try to be "perfect"; no one is. Try to be understanding and helpful. Don't expect affection; do it because you love her. Do it because you want to be a great father and husband. She probably won't realize how much you are helping now, but she will eventually and she will appreciate it.
I can't imagine how difficult twins in their 2's would be. It has to be incredibly hard on both of you.
