Thank you for all the advice, but I think maybe by saying I was going to withdraw I would try to illicit some sort of reaction from her. I have been the "perfect" husband for 3 straight months and have gotten little to no credit for it. But I am not looking for credit, just a sense that she acknowledges it. As that line in the movie "The Story Of Us" goes, Just a look, a smile, something that lets me know we're on the same team. Oh, BTW, we are both 42, so not young mother, she is coping with being an older mother.
The event I went to was the first time I had gone out alone in months. I don't do that regularly at all. I thought she would be happy to be rid of me for an evening. But when it wasn't going smoothly for her she tried to pull me back in.
I just don't understand how someone can seem so disinterested in my affection yet demand I support her when the going gets rough. I am usually compelled to help for the reasons stated above, but I also wonder that if she wants to truly S then these crazy nights are something she's going to have to learn how to cope with.
I know she's going through a lot, and I am there for her despite getting zero affection. It gets frustrating sometimes. Also, I sent her a message asking her to see a new MC with me and for the second time she never replied. I don't understand it. Is she not ready, would she rather coast along like this until she is? I just hate the perpetual limbo our M is in. I miss the affection of my W. I won't change. My changes are for me and I will not back down. I guess what I am trying to gague is how long it will take, what can I do to crack through.
I thought I had made a dent a few weeks ago during our last MC session. But she backed off and put that wall back up.
