Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

I emailed my W back yesterday afternoon. I told her that I have done a lot of thinking and I have decided that I will be moving back to the house with the dogs. I said that this is what is best for me. I did not give her an exact date but told her it would be soon. That's all I said about that subject.

I also set a boundary that I want to be copied on all emails she sends to our agent regarding our house so that I am kept in the loop. I said that I would do the same. I said that I was dissapointed with the agent so far as she has not done what she promised. I said that we will need to reevaluate her performance at the end of this contract to decide whether or not to renew or go with another agent. I told W that I would like her to take the lead with agent and have the agent contact her when we have a showing and with the feedback.

I said that I have a lot of things going on right now and don't have the time to be the contact for agent. I was tempted to tell her that one of the reasons for me being busy was my going back to college. I didn't tell her that because I just thought it sounded too much like I'm trying to tell her about my changes. I don't feel like I need to tell her about my changes...I am showing her by my actions. I told W that I would like the agent to update us at least once a week. I told W to keep me informed when showings are scheduled and with the feedback.

I told W that I have been mowing the lawn each week and other house chores and that I would like her to vacuum the house once in a while while it is vacant. The floors need it from people walking through to look at the house. I also told her that I continue to remain in contact with the bank about the house and taking care of that end of things. I said that I had not been telling her of this to keep the stress off of her but I feel like she should know. I finished by saying that I am done running from things.

No response yet from W. It felt good to finally say and do what I want. I felt like it was time. I saw no progress from sitting around and waiting. I feel like it's time for me to be proactive and take action for me. Stop doing what doesn't work and start doing what does work, right? Clearly the other way was not working.