My Husband Just Left Me

[DiamondGirl]

He only left on Saturday so I almost feel like I need to give myself a few more days to process.

This is one of the first lessons to learn in all of this. Do not make decisions when your emotions are high unless it is a life/death kind of thing (which most things aren't). Give it a day or more for actions (including contacting H). Most times after you've calmed down and processed things you'll decide against contacting H.

Financially, yes, you need to protect yourself. Are there bills that are due immediately? If not, give yourself the few days to prepare yourself for what you need to do.

Breathe. Eat. Sleep. Breathe again.

Right now you are spinning (reeling as it were)...We've all been there at some point (and revisited on occasion)... Concentrate on you and take things minute by minute.

Only you can decide this because you know your H best, and your H is pretty young for it, but could there be a mid-life transition in the works? It doesn't always happen in the 30s or older...

If you read some of the posts in the Midlife Crisis area you may be able to determine if that's the case (if it truly sounds like your H). The only reason I mention it is because you said it seemed he suddenly changed in the last few years..

From what I understand the basic foundation is the same in dealing with either WAS or MLCer with the exception of some of the interactions...

I agree about an OW being a possibility though...Just because he didn't have longer term R with women before, doesn't mean he hasn't found one now (sorry to say )