Just found out she already filed

[ClingingToHope]

OK. If you had to get it off your chest. Just don't do it again. She has all the power when you do that.

Get yourself on a budget. Once you figure out you CAN do this then things get better and you can start dreaming again.

Really, I went nuts for 10 months and spent myself into oblivion. Now, I've been on a tight budget for six weeks and have figured out I can do this and now I'm ... excited for the future in a way.

There's so much I want to say to STBXW -- but it would all be said trying to convince her she's making a mistake. We can't do that anymore. They are beyond the point of listening to us. Only be surviving and thriving will they ever see they may have made a mistake.

Think about five years from now. Where do you want to be living? What do you want to be doing? How do you want your daughter to view you? What do you want your ex-wife to see when she sees you?

The best revenge is a life well lived.