Divorce in 1 month Help with exposing please need

[twolf]

Ok more on my stich allen and sandi.

We did, i still do live in small town where our house and company is. Wife moved to eugene which is a 100 miles away.

I realize now that any time i even think about going down wife tells people lies about me to protect her self from the stich.

I quote if you come down you need to call in advance.
She needs to make shure other man is not around i get that now.


What do you think of me driving down their inviting her entire family out for lunch and expose this, where we all can sit down and talk.The step FIL, MIL, BIL, SIL real FIL step MIL and WAW. I know if i did this just sent them a text stating who all i wont to come that it would putt so much pressure on the stich.

What really pisses me off MIL used to brag about me how daughter was happpy. House company give her money to go shopping. I was the greatest guy in the world.
Butt when we had son she would tell us we live to far away that i got wife locked away in the boonies and i was like her real dad and all her freinds were down their and that she didnt need to make any freinds here.Oh and when wife and guy were talking they are just freinds and you are just controlling and jeoulos.
This woman has NO morale values.I dont even know how i could get her to be on my side when i know she gives bad advice.

I realize now wy she wont talk to real FIL and BIL because they know the truth and they dont support it.

Ever sence FIL confronted her she wont talk to him or take any of his phone calls. The funny part her and her dad didn't really have a relationship till we got married because MIL turned my wife against him. her Real dads sister who MIL was still freinds with hasent talked to them in three months because she told wife she was making a big mistake that im a good man.

Found out from BIL that when WAW was house sitting when him and SIL went on honeymoon she didn't feed or water his dog who was in a pin in june when we had a heat wave and he died no food or water. She was at the house with O/M its amazing how everyone suffers with WAW and O/M acttions.

It seems that anyone that has anything to say is getting cutt out of wifes life its pretty sad beause they are family.

WAW wife texted me last night said she does not want any thing in the divorce. No part of house, no part of company,any bills in her name she will take any bills in my name i take, she said she just wants a free break, And we will split join cutody of son.
WOW THIS IS A BIG DEAL SHE DOESN'T WANT ANYTHING NOW!

What do you guys make of this guilt and she is trying to get me to take the pressure off?????


And should i reply with something about her not being able to be a good mother to our son if she would of ended up being a unhappy and bitter person?
NOTE the words.... would of ended up being unhappy!!!

What kind of mother are you to our son now??

SANDI.....what does she mean that if she would of stayed with me she would of eneded up being a unhappy and bitter person and not a good mother to our son??

[sandi2]

SANDI.....what does she mean that if she would of stayed with me she would of eneded up being a unhappy and bitter person and not a good mother to our son??

It's all part of the WAW script. She has to try and justify her reasons for leaving you. She is saying that staying with you would have made her so unhappy & bitter and in return she would not have been a good mother b/c of the unhappiness.

[TimeHeals]

It's all part of the WAW script. She has to try and justify her reasons for leaving you. She is saying that staying with you would have made her so unhappy & bitter and in return she would not have been a good mother b/c of the unhappiness.

Exactly. A true, "I'm sorry you feel that way" moment.

[twolf]

OK update everyone invited every one of WAW family out for pizza and a couple of her freinds,Im going to get my side of the story out their sent a text to everyone.

Text said hello every one its been a while sence we all got together and some of you i haven't seen in six months. I would like to invite you all out for pizza on me.Just want to say hi and let everyone know whats really going on.
name pizza place, time 12.00pm this sunday look forward to seeing you all their no rsvp needed, look forward to seing you all their.


Sent it to MIL 1,FIL 2 FIL 1 MIL 2 BIL,SIL/ Wifes grandparents a couple of real close family freinds, sent to WAW and the O/M

WAW... wife sent text message wy cant you just leave my family alone every one does not need to know our bussines. And you are crazy..

MY... reply we are still married and as far as im conserned they are still my family and freinds .


WAW step FIL Texted me back and said if its on you i will be their.

[Allen A]

TWolf, the next time your wife texts no do NOT RESPOND

Why are you arguing with her? Just ignore her and keep up the exposure... Excellent work

PS : Make sure you mention your wife and OM messing around while the dogs died of heat stroke too... the more wrecklessness you can show the better...

TRY to focus on how sleazy OM is being, try NOT to attack your wife, portray her as vulnerable and prone to escapism...

Focus on criticizing OM as attacking your family.

[MrBond]

twolf,

Have you ever thought about what you're going to do and treat your W AFTER you've exposed.

One of the many problems that I see on the boards are that people go expose to everyone who will listen, but don't have a clue as to what to do after. Are you prepared to deal with the anger, resentment, etc? If your goal is to save the M, what steps are you going to do afterwards to attract your W back?

After you expose, she's going believe that you can't be "trusted" even though she was the one who did the cheating. How are you going to re-establish that "trust"?

[Allen A]

It's way too soon for that MrBond... WAY TOO SOON...

Baby steps here... FIRST get the AFFAIR BUSTED... THEN REBUILD the marriage

[MrBond]

I'm not talking about actually rebuilding the M.

It's about preparing yourself for the aftermath. For lack of a better example, it's like invading Iraq and raising hell but not knowing what to do with the country afterwards.

If you're going to tell everyone to expose, then I think it's important to preparing for the hurricane that's going to come afterwards. Many of the people on here aren't going to be ready. They should know how to respond and what to say afterwards.

Trust has been broken on both sides. Something should be set up afterwards to AT LEAST lay a foundation. That is a baby step in the right decision.

[twolf]

I had a little bit of a slip last night after BIL told me that O/M is affraid of me so i called called O/M. all i got was voice message i left a message.


Told him i would appertiate it if he would stay away from my wife and son.
That a man that came to our wedding should be ashamed of him self when he watched me and my wife get married and was witness before freinds, family and god.
Told him I did not want him hanging around my and my wifes son dont want him to learn bad morale values.
If he was anything of a man he would tell me in face or over the phone how things just happened.
Let him know that i would be calling his mom and brother to let them know what kind of man he is. Told him if he wanted to call the police like some coward and not talk to me go ahead.


ALLEN qestion... wentt through and found pass word to WAW old email account found pics of my son with othermans dog.He has 4 email accounts i wonder if their wasn't something i could do or say to him pretending to be my wife. Something to detroy his emotinal tie.

What do you think.
This guy is scraed shi%less of me i know this.

[twolf]

MR BOND i feel if i dont destroy their AFFAIR my marrige will never even have the chance to try to get pecied back together.

I LRT till the cows come home it just made their relationship stronger.
They started to be seen in public together, She has told so many s lies about me no one new butt what she told them.
That six months of me not saying anything LRT. She got a R/O so i would not talk to her family. she putt everyones address as places i could not go just because her parents invited me down. I won that battle it is amazing when a person is under oathe how honest they become, the judge threw out the R/O telling her she is basiaclly an idiot in so many words.
SHE DIDN'T WANT ANYONE TALKING ABOUT ANYTHING SHE WANTED EVERTHING TO BE HUSH HUSH.

She told every one that they didnt start dating till after sepration was filed. I have basicaly two months to stop our divorce.
If exposing works any little way for her to end it and take a chance on our marrige im all for it.