This is something I spoke with my pastor about last year, at length. On more than one occasion. And I am currently seeing a Christian IC to work on healing from the D. Both of these people assured me that there were Biblical grounds for the D (repeated adultery and abandonment, as xH moved out of the home 17 months ago), and that despite any shortcomings I brought to the marriage, the fact that I was committed to growing and making it better and staying together showed that I was not 'to blame' for the D itself. But it takes two people to make a marriage and the other person has the same free will that we have...
