I went a couple times this year but am having problems with feeling like I let God down because I did not honor the vows I made when I got M'd. "Til death do us part' is verrry difficult for me. I guess I just want him to let me know that its' ok,,don't know.
Hi, Kim,
I just wanted to let you know that I understand your feelings. I think it's only natural that we might worry that God is disappointed in us, having "failed" our vows. I can assure you He does not hold the LBS accountable for D, not when the LBS has done everything humanly possible to reconcile the situation. As a follower of Christ, there are only two circumstances where D is allowable -- when the WAS is unrepentantly unfaithful or when they have some other unrepentant immorality. In either case, when our spouse takes a path that is destructive to their souls and thus to the life of the M, and then refuses to repent and turn away from that, even after our earnest efforts to fix the situation, God recognizes we may have no other choice but to allow the M to end. (See Matthew 19.)
So, with that understanding, let me offer you the assurances that if you have indeed held up your end of the M covenant and sincerely tried to fix what was broken, but the M ended anyway, the fault for the D itself does not rest with you. We are surely accountable for our own personal sins and for our own contributions to the weakening of the MR, but under such circumstances the D itself is not counted among them (instead, that rests with the WAS).
Does that make any sense?
I hope I have allayed your concerns, at least to some degree in this. God does indeed love you, all of us, despite our own sins. We are all sinners. If we are truly repentant, He does not want us to allow our mistakes to hinder our relationship with Him.
Hugs and blessings to you, and to Karen for allowing me this brief hi-jack.
