Just wanted to update a bit, W and I are doing very well, we have had some fights,(mainly about OM) but overall we get together very well. We are planning on making our re-introduction as a couple this weekend at a local bar. Some insight for those going through the same thing. Wife started feeling love for me again after I had given her space and really worked on myself (6 months or so). I did lose 35 pounds and really figured myself out, I changed alot as I became more outgoing and in touch with my feelings.
during our seperation she would tell me that "you are better looking now than the day I met you, but it just doesn't matter". It didn't matter because it was the emotional connection, or lack their of is what was really missing in our relationship. In the month or so prior to our reconcilliation, we had spent time together for kid's events and did get along well and communicate freely. She said that time together is what made start to feel the "love" again for me. Ultimately when it came to decide between me and him, she said she knew she didn't "love" me like she loved him, but I was in her "blood". she didn't want to lose me no matter how hard she tried to convince herself that D was the answer.
