J3B, Good advice as usual, gotta remember that she views my marital transgessions as bad as her affairs. thanks Eric & TG, Great to see you guys, I need to catch up on threads, which I am doing now. I`m shopping for new car, waiting 45min to get a price on the car, am I the only one that hates this??
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
Yeah....what are looking at? Please tell me something like a nice convertable....please..
Yes - car shopping stinks. I usually take the following approach...Mr. Salesman - here is what I am willing to pay for X car. Please let me know if this price is acceptable. Please do not go back and forth with the manager. A simple yes will suffice. If you need to go back to the manager I will leave.
Quite often it has worked for me.
Good luck.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Unfortunately, I had to get a more fuel efficient vehicle. Had an SUV and it was killing me at the gas pump, plus it was in my W's name and that was really not the ideal situation. I did end up getting something, just took 3 hours, uuuggghh. Oh well, at least it is done.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
Yeah..I know what you mean about fuel efficient. I have a 2008 jeep and I have to tell you the things get about 15 miles to the gallon. I do have to say though...nothing like driving it in the summer with the top down.
Congrats on the new vehicle.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
For those that are not familiar with my sitch, my D13 hates mom for all the messed up stuff she has done but mostly the lying. D13 has not talked to mom since Jan 3rd. D13 is done with therapy last week and actually doing great. Her therapist said she moved through the stages of greiving at the speed of light.
Last night D13 were talking late and I was trying to explain "forgiveness" and "compassion" for her mom. I think D13 got it.....She texted her mom last night, just some small talk. D13 wanted me to read the texts, I declined. I told D13 that what she talks about with my W is between them, I am not going to make that mistake again.
I hope they reconnect, my D13 desperately misses her mom but would never admit it. I just hope my W doesn't screw up and lie to my D13 again. D13 wanted to ask mom some pretty hard hitting tough questions last night. I convinced my D13 to start out slow.
I don't know how this will affect things between my W and I but if my D13 and her reconcile then my W will be able to come out to the house more often. That would make that "road back" a little easier to travel.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
Thanks Jack, You know about the effed up sitch there and I could tell from conversations my D13 and I have had that she really does miss her mom.
D13 really wants to rip mom a "new one" and I had to convince her that approach will not get her what she wants in the end. That is what sunk in with my D13 last night.
Whistle just blew, I'm outta here!!
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
Glad to hear that your D is doing well. IMO - one of the reasons is that she has a GREAT dad!
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
