I feel like it might be best to withdraw more and give her a stronger feeling of being alone. Not in a mean, uncaring way. But I have been giving her my best and it doesn't really matter right now. She doesn't acknowledge it. So why bother? She will get my best when she asks for it.
I do not agree with that tatic at all. If this was a WAW in an EA/PA....then I would agree. I see her as a young wife & mother who is overwelmed with all that she has to do every single day. It has taken a toll on her physically and emotionally.
She needs to see your support.....not distanting yourself. She feels that you are not helping her enough. You are gone to business meetings, dinner parties or whatever and she feels stuck and alone up to her chin in diapers and dirty dishes.
Please do not be selfish about this. Your W needs you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
