Is this how it was for you when you felt depressed?
Yes, but I may have been worse, IDK. As I have described myself....I felt "dead" inside. I wanted something or someone to cause me just to feel again.
I believe whenever a person has reached that depth of depression....nothing "normal" seems to get a rise of excitement (happiness) and therefore many get off into areas they shouldn't. That's what I did.
Anyway, as I have said before, I know a lot of people refuses to take medication for depression, but they would take it for any other disease or serious health problem...and depression is a terrible thing for the entire family members to deal with.
I'm hoping as she gradually pulls up out of some this mirey mirk that you can encourage her to see a hormone specialist. Sorry if you've said, but has she admitted that she is depressed?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!