I honestly think and feel like my W will never apologize because in her mind she has done nothing wrong. She does not knwo that I or anyone knows what I do...She would first have to tell the truth then apologize for it.
I don't see how either she or you can think that you don't know that she has been chasing after some guy at work. Hello? They have called you up 3 times and told you what was going on. Meanwhile she has been telling you she plans to move out. Surely, you can put 1 and 1 together and figure out that she is looking for a new husband. And if you can figure it out, you should have a discussion about it. Because it is the stuff you sweep under the rug and pretend doesn't exist that destroys the marriage. You don't need any more info than what came into your house and asked to speak to you.
Why wait for an apology? Demand one. She is playing her baby games, swinging on the swing and pretending she's some kind of ten year old virgin. Is this what you want for the rest of your life? To life in a sexless marriage while your wife fantasizes about other men?
Life is long. The next time she brings up how to fix up the house, I recommend telling her that after she moves out you'll get a new wife. And the new wife will have ideas for the house. No point in changing the house now when she is fixing to move out!
