We have been together for almost 14 years ( this August ) WAW has had FOUR kids total. VERY Premature Twin Girls by the Abuser 15 years ago and two with me, a nearly 6 year old girl and a 7 mo old son.
No I have NEVER interacted with him on ANY level at all, other then being the target of his threats on occassion, frequently in the beginning and the only one other time in the last 4 years during a random and chance encounter in public.
IIRC they actually saw the RESULTS of the abuse. All I can say is it wasnt something that ANYONE in her immediate or extended family ever questioned the credibility of.
I think the EX is providing some sense of stability at best or perhaps a fantasy of rebuilding her original family now that her twins are close to being old enough to move out on their own in a few years. I really dont know what she is thinking and so far , everyone that knows her,us and the past history with the EX are dumbstruck by what she's doing.
I think alot of it stems from the fact that she honestly resents on some deep level having to work to support our family, based on certain things she's said and passed behavioral clues. When we didnt have any kids she worked like crazy. Once our daughter was born , I really think she started overcompensating for what SHE missed as a child , since her...
