Citygirl, It seemed like a very low down thing to do. Almost a dagger to me, because she thinks i am trying to take DD1 away which I do plan on getting shared custody of her.

Her mom advised that he was not her boyfriend and that she did that to make me jealous, very immature I know. I just dont understand it all.

I am working on myself and i am so impressed with my improvement but this no contact is killing me. I mean we eventually would need to talk about divorce, custody, her getting her things out of the house etc...

I just cant deal with this. It comes in waves, out of the blue the vision comes and I get anxiety from it.

I go exercise it passes etc.. But man I so want to save my M, what can I do to make this happen? I don't want her and this guy to start heating up. I cant stand the thought that she would bring another man around my child also, does she not realize it makes me want to go for full custody, but at the same time I want to do everything right to give myself the best chance at future reconciliation. I have until July now to go back to court, Its been 2+ months of no contact and I do not know if this is making it the chance very very slim...

I want us to be a family again so bad.


M 36
W 29
Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months
Daughter 15 months
Bomb 4/22/10
Separated since 4/25/10
OM 6/10/10
Hopeful, but moving on