Ok I know I am going to get flamed. I promise that I'm not trying to defend myself. I completely understand the statement and it makes sense. My worry is that my WAH is extremely literal - it's very odd. And so my fear is that even though I have made it clear that I am open to a reconciliation and workign on our marriage that if I do anything to make him think otherwise he will take that as I've changed my mind.
If you have made it clear you are open to working on the M then that is all you need to do as far as that goes. Protecting yourself financially has nothing to do with working on the M or not. You cannot "make" your H think anything nor can you control how he thinks. If he assumes you have changed your mind then nothing you can do about it. Assuming is not the way to communicate and you would not be building anything new if he assumes how you think.
I would like to word it more softly. I dont think I need to be "nice" but he is extremely sensitive. I promise he will read that as me being mean. Granted, he shouldn't be doing what he did but I'd like to be the bigger person.
Again, you can't control how or what he thinks. Protecting yourself financially has nothing to do with being the bigger person and everything to do with being smart.
Your H just left you and is ramming a divorce and the division of assets down your throat and your main concern is if he feels YOU are being "mean"? Please think about that.
