Need 'How to' on exposure,,,, and balls to do it

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OM does not work with my wife, he works an hour away from us at a large medical facilty, and surely has a few levels of management above him. Thought I saw a letter on here somewhere that was very eloquent for such a situation, just not sure how much impact it would have or if I could get in any legal trouble.

Thank you for the perfect advice for FIL, needed that, otherwise I coulda really messed that part up. "Someone is taking advantage of your D at a very vulnerable time in her life, and our M, she has entered into an EA/PA with OM, who obviously doesn't respect our M at all", something like that?

Unless something changes dramatically immidiately, certain events will most likely happen over the next week that will cause me to have to expose to her, and list out the boundaries, then if she chooses to continue, I ask her to sleep elsewhere in the house other than our room or D's and look for another place to live. She will need to explain to the D's that it is her decision to live elsewhere, and nothing that I had to do with, then approach FIL, and her BF that already knows about OM, and let them work on her. Then contact OM, and se tpublic meeting, ro if he refuses, lay it out to him over the phone to leave W and family alone.

Has a WW/H or OM/W ever come on these boards, and read thier spouses posts in the middle of the whole mess? just curious