My Husband Just Left Me

[newmama]

OK I just saw your last post about wanting to be soft. Guess what Anne? I am not divorced yet but I have been in limbo for OVER a year BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN SOOOOO SOFT! (Of course my H has an OW so that could be a big factor, lol!) Still what I mean is that in this last month I have made some forward changes like what Puppy and CG are telling you to do with your email and WH has still not filed any paperwork (see my signature). and he has said he wants to divorce about 4 times in the last year!

"Believe nothing they say and 1/2 of what they do"

You do want to stand up to your H without flipping out and going all Jerry Springer on him- believe me, it shows confidence and he will RESPECT you more which will make him be drawn to you. I got the sense your self esteem is low so if I am right, then your H can sense that. He subconsciously probably thinks because your self esteem is low, you wont' get out there and meet someone else and will pine for him always so he doesn't have to worry about losing you in case he changes his mind. HA- if you start making some bold moves (albeit- carefully and time them with self improvement!) then this will definitely worry him! And work on losing weight if you think it is a factor (unless you are not truly overweight-some women are so critical of themselves!)