My Husband Just Left Me

[newmama]

First, I love your email and CG and Puppy ARE vets so you should listen to them! The message without the lines comes across as confident and I think you should start to think of this whole scary mess partly as a "Poker game" and partly as "Chess" which involves strategy more than luck. I actually don't know the rules of Poker (sadly, sounds like your H might!) other than you have a hand of cards and you bet without showing cards and try to convince the other players that you have a better hand than they do by betting more money and keeping cards you get (right)? BLUFFing?

So your email nix the lines shows you are protecting yourself financially but by not indicating that you are willing to change it in the future, it is a bluff- you actually want him to think you are getting pissed off at his actions and are getting closer to filing for D (i.e. rejecting HIM) before he will file! It is also a chess move closer to capturing the queen.... I hope I don't get in trouble for saying that! Meanwhile, you "prepare for the worst AND the best" by GALing and not pursuing.

As you GAL, you become more interesting, distracted from your current stressful situation, and it will make you more attractive to your H or to others if you D. By not pursuing, or getting angry or letting him see that you are flipping out, it shows that you are valuable...that you KNOW you are a great catch and will get snatched up by someone else so you aren't worried about losing him. This makes your H hesitate before deciding do divorce you. He sees your confidence and can recognize that other men will, too, and this makes you valuable.

I really want to say "Listen [censored]. Why can't you just wake up? What happened to the man I loved? Where did you go? I love you so much and care about you and I feel like you are throwing your life away and don't care about anyone but yourself. I've given you everything. I'm not a doormat. I'm switching my account because you are so unpredictable and I don't trust you."

LMAO!!!!! I would LOVE to say all of the bolded to my WH too!!!!