My Husband Just Left Me

[newmama]

Hi, Anne, look- I get that you are desperate and panicked and don't want to do the wrong thing!! (((HUGS!))) But you posted several times about being worried about the money, therefore it means your gut is telling you that you need to separate the account. Or open a separate account. And this is just plain smart.

I recognize that your DB coach, whom I have heard excellent things about, warns you not to make moves that might push your H forward with the D. HOWEVER there are too many horror stories of spouses taking money from the joint checking or savings so that they won't be used against them in the division of assets if it comes to D...and I think for selfish reasons too!

Think of it like this- my WH and I split our joint account, still have it but also have separate accounts, back in March 09 and we are still not divorced. If we reconcile, then it is easy to go back to using the joint account!