New here ... need some advice.

[MrBond]

Katya,

You are going to get a variety of comments good and bad. But all are trying to help you.

We are all very supportive and right now it seems like you're letting your emotions get the better of you right now. Just like your sitch, you can't control what people tell you. But you can control how you react.

It's like your son with the dishes. You couldn't control that, so you get angry. Same as when you felt your H wasn't listening to you. You left then was surprised when he asked for a D.

It's up to you whether or not you want to continue posting, but I can tell you that we've ALL been through what you have. YOU are not unique. We've all learned different lessons, different ways to handle this, but I can tell you one thing. If it is your goal to save your marriage, this is the place to start.

If you don't decide to post any longer, then good luck to you and I hope things work out.