New here ... need some advice.

[MrBond]

Just a few more questions.

Have you ever met his ex? How many years were they apart before you and he went out?

Do you still have a friendly R with your ex?

I know you mentioned that you lost your desire for him because of past resentments. What were they?

To me it sounds like it comes down to control. Your H likes to be in control and so do you. Maybe because things are out of your control right now in your M, when your son doesn't do something you've asked him to do, that little switch inside you goes off and you get angry.

Also it sounds like your H has control issues as well. He's not getting the response he wants from you, so like his first M he is moving things along as quickly as possible. Seems like he may be repeating the same mistakes he did in his first M.