^^^^ Definitely. Too nice, Too civil could mean a big surprise/turnaround can be expected.
Originally Posted By: SpyBunny
ok, except for the one time I talked to his sis-in-law- she was a bit closer to me than to him since we were the "in-laws" (long story), but still I admit, my bad.
Not in my book.Truth does not equal bad. Venting does not equal bad. The TRUTH about a (ahem)"Saint" does not equal bad!
And if his Lawyer does not like it, (see VH, above) Hey, it won't be "his fault" (nothing ever is); it will be his L. Then all bets are off and just sic your L on 'em.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
It's our anniversary today- 21 years. Stbx invited me to dinner to mark the occasion. It went OK, we talked about kids, family and friends- safe topics. Obviously, it felt very awkward, and I think my tenseness showed. But overall- I'm not feeling much emotion about it- just a touch of sadness briefly, and no desire for stbx.
I don't know, I debated with myself about it for a couple hours. He did ask nicely.
I think it was partly a desire to catch up on what's going on with the in-laws and chance to talk about a couple of kid issues, but mostly acting polite and pleasant until the paperwork is signed.
It felt like a trial run for future interactions- polite chit chat about family and friends, and avoiding anything too personal.
Stomach issues are back even without stress from last night. I wasn't crying about it and he's not being an @ss, so it was fine. I did have a small case of nerves tho, that could have done it, I guess.
I have to finish typing up the Sep Agreement and Parenting Plan this weekend so I can get them sent off to his atty. Blech...
I don't know, I debated with myself about it for a couple hours. He did ask nicely.
I think it was partly a desire to catch up on what's going on with the in-laws and chance to talk about a couple of kid issues, but mostly acting polite and pleasant until the paperwork is signed.
It felt like a trial run for future interactions- polite chit chat about family and friends, and avoiding anything too personal.
I understand. Sounds like it certainly made sense at the time. Glad to see you're not letting your guard down.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Separation agreement is typed up and submitted to my atty for his review. I called H with a question re: life insurance and he mentions that he asked his atty to type an agreement... (OK- Why?? I told him I would do it to help save costs. But whatever- he can spend whatever he wants on his atty, I told him last week that I'm not contributing towards that expense. Sucks for for him on that point, because except for costs, mine are free.)
After I hear back from my atty tomorrow, it'll get sent off to H. The end is drawing closer...
