Need 'How to' on exposure,,,, and balls to do it

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He has no spouse, and people seem to think contacting his work is not the key. One said legal action in the form of a Tort might scare him?
Feels like she is trying to bait me into doing everything to fast when I'm not ready?
Her boss(female) has known our family all 15 years, so thinking she might be able to apply pressure of some kind, as well as FIL who has already told me he's a straight shooter, and will tell either one of us were out of line if he feels it, just not sure how he would take the EA/Pa thing.