Jackie,

I can relate. H has been mad for years that I don't love/accept his parents. I do but I love my family more, blah, blah. I chose to about 1 yr. ago, NEVER complain to H about his family. I will vent to my mom if need be.

I also try to be attentive and validate when H is talking about work or acting. H like yours, sounds like he does not feel supported. Just stay positive when he tells you ANYTHING. It takes alot of time for them to tear down that wall they have built around themselves.

The positive is that H TALKED to you and told you how he felt. I think any opening up whether it seems like a bad talk or not is actually a POSITIVE.

You are doing great!! I love the laser tag idea. I think I will steal it! nik