It's very common and explained in the books, your friends and family will side with you and feel it would be in your best intrest to just let it go, nature of the beast. No matter how much you point out your faults (sometimes even more severe than the S who's now walked), doesn't matter, just the way it works.
Only now after 6 months being back with my (x)W are some beginning to see that she is the person I love, no matter what. And it is my decision and my decision alone.
The largest irony, my cousin whom took me in when I lost everything is still the biggest opposition to us being back together. Yet, she stayed with her H through (atleast) 4 affairs? So, go figure.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11