So I just had my first DB coaching session with Laurie.
I feel much better and feel I more clarity!
She basically said she does not think I should take him off my insurance because that would just be me helping him move forward with things. She said I should take him off the lawyer service I have and say that "I believe this marriage can be savied so I can't help with the lawyer service but I care about you and will keep you on my insurance".
She said I should meet with a lawyer but not to bring it up or tell him about it because he could perceive this as wanting to move forward but if he brings it up and asks say that "I did not retain a lawyer I just went because I had a few questions"
For the next two weeks I set the goals that if he does the following stuff then we will know we are moving the wrong direction: -Gets a mediator -Files legally for seperation -Moves all of his stuff out
She said I should give him specific compliments.
I feel better and know that no matter what happens at least I'm keeping my dignity in this thing!
