It is IMPERATIVE that you MAINTAIN this same stance with your wife in the days and weeks ahead. I PREDICT THAT SHE IS GOING TO TRY TO TEST YOU in this (legal) area, possibly even using sex as a tack, and you will need to PASS THE TEST.
Don't forget the THINGS YOU DID RIGHT that got you to this point. You can LOSE IT ALL if you go all melty-man now.
Thanks Puppy. I will. It's so much easier now that I actually have detached. I can't imagine how someone could really do this right while they're still detached. I had some successes last year, but I kept backsliding because I wasn't truly detached yet.
I will be on the lookout for behavior from her that smells like a test. I'll be quick to post here if I feel unsure!
