No, I haven't detached completely......still working on it.
Don't know if anyone remembers but I said I had a funny feeling that H's parents are calling all shots. Usually in a MLC it is OP but nope, I have IL's I'm up against.
Just found out over the weekend that IL's are telling H to divorce me already and making stories up about me and what I'm doing so he doesn't want to come back.
He is drinking really heavy, getting in trouble at work, and like I mentioned above really depressed.
I don't know of anyone especially at our ages that is afraid to try to work on M because of being afraid of what their parents will do or think. He has been thinking of trying to work on our M according to this person but his parents don't approve.
I never knew how afraid of his parents he was until a few years ago when he lied to them about something that was so trivial. When I asked why he did he said he didn't want them mad at him. I said that's crazy, he said it's called respect and I said no it's not respect it's being afraid and there is no reason to be afraid of your parents.
Has anyone ever heard of DBusting when parents are involved with this illness instead of OP?
Just can't believe I might lose my H and our family over IL's.
I know some of you are going to give it to me and say he needs to man up to his parents if he wants this M restored but I don't think he will. This person said he is scared to death.
