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[pigskin]

Well that's a fabulous first step, solely for the reason that she was the one who suggested it.

For it to have any benefit at all, you must tell her that you are not willing to do it unless she is willing to drop that inappropriate relationship COMPLETELY. It will be a waste of time otherwise, and just give her the ability to save face by saying "Well I tried my best to save the marriage, it just didn't work out".

Be adamant about it. You will be wasting money otherwise. I wasn't adamant about dropping the OM when my W and I did Retrouvaille together, and it basically netted us nothing in the way of fixing the relationship, despite the intensity of the program.

Don't get your hopes up, keep the burden of proof on her, and make her drive the reconciliation effort. If she wants you back she has to earn you, because you will be one hell of a catch for someone else who is willing to honor and respect you. Never forget that.

Great news nonetheless. You are doing a fantastic job, keep it up.