Hi I'm new to this site. I have been married for 7 yrs today. I have been seperated from my husband now 11 months. We have a 5yr old son together. I'm 37yrs old and he is 30yrs old. Okay here is my situation are you ready? This is our third seperation and the longest. The first one was initiated by him. He just told me one day that he was leaving. I was shocked and asked him not to. He was gone for three days and then contacted me asking why I never called him to come back. I told him because he was the one that left me. Okay so we got back together after a week in half of him trying to come back home. Several months passed and he wasn't spending any time with me at all. He was going out every weekend. During his vacation time I asked him if we could spend time together. He came over with his friend and I just blew up and told him to go move in with his friend if he was more important than me. Now I recommend that you never talk to your spouse when you are mad because the outcome is never good. Okay he left and was gone for almost two months this time. We reconciled and things between us were getting worse. He kept on going out with his friends and started lying to me about alot of different things. I found out that he had gone to Rhode Island and was there with another woman. Now I was devastated to hear that he had lied to me about where he was and that he was with another woman. I asked him about it and he said that he was at the casino but that he went with his friend not another woman.Okay time passsed and I hardly saw him. I confronted him one sunday afternoon and told him that where was this relationship going? He looked surprised at the question.Anyway I decided that maybe he just wanted to be single again. That he should probably do that. He told me that he didnt want to move out. that he wanted to live here as roommates instead. I told him that if we did that that that is exactly what it was going to be. No him sleeping in the bed with me or having sex anymore. He said okay let's give it a try. One day went by and we were together again. I don't even remember how he decided to move out now after all this time. But he did an it is now 11 months and counting. He recently confessed to me that he was seeing another woman. Which I kind of suspected the entire time we have been seperated. That was 4 days ago. He told me that he wanted to come back home and work on our relationship. I was very happy that he had finally told me the truth. Okay so last night he tells me that he is going to spend a month at his friend's apartment while he is away on vacation. I was like WTF!!! To myself of course. I am doing the 180 approach on how I would normally react to things he does or says now. But now I feel like I did when we first seperated. He plans on staying there to really think things through. He said for me to not lose hope or faith in us. That things are going to be better than ever after the month at his friend's. I am very confused. I don't know what to do next. He told me that he talked to his mom and and the friend that he is staying with now. He said that they will be calling me to talk to me. I told him that I would talk to them but that I really neeed to talk to him too. This is not how I thought we were going to spend our anniversary today. Any suggestions/advice are very much welcomed. Thank you for listening.
