Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Thanks GM. I did take a look at it. It does provide some help. I'm also reading His Needs Her Needs. I skipped ahead and read the chapter on financial support. I definitely understand the importance of financial security to W. That's why I'm taking steps, like finishing my degree, to make sure that I can always be able to financially support myself and my W if she comes back.

I'm also reading 5 Languages of Apology. It's a good book and explains how to apologize for the specific things. I've also read here that many Ws want the H to apologize for the specific issues. The book talks about expressing regret "I am sorry", accepting responsibility "I was wrong", making restitution "what can I do to make it right?", genuinely repenting "I'll try not to do that again", and requesting forgiveness "will you please forgive me?" I would love to write my W (I already have just haven't sent it) to tell her I am sorry for specific issues. Would it make a difference? I don't know. I don't want to just tell her, I'm sorry." I don't think a general "I'm sorry" is enough. I want to be very specific to show that I do recognize these things, express my regret and let her know I'm working to become a better man and H. Like I said, I would love to send it to her but I feel like it's too pursuing at this point. I don't know though, would a woman want to hear this from her H at this point? Would it mean anything to her? I think if the apology letter stuck with just the apology and wasn't pursuing, it might be ok? Sigh, I don't know...