NM, you are correct! You, I, we are not supposed to prepare for the worst! We are supposed to plan and move forward, nothing wrong with getting strong for our own sake.
MWD does tell us that GAL and 180s have NOTHING to do with our WAS, but everything to do with us. Getting stronger and getting a life doesnt conflict with us wanting or wishing our Hs back into our lives. In fact i see it going hand in hand, i just cant seem to explain it well.
GAL forces us to become more positive, more attractive, more kind and gentile and to focus on what will bring out the best in us, the secret also believes that in doing so we are then able to attract goodness and love into our lives...
There is a part in the secret, and i know I am about to botch it with my explanation, but they say things like, today, drive down a different road on your way to work, or do something differently, as it changes the channels of energies and can bring positive feedback to you... just like a 180?
For example, you GAL and going to happy hour.... you get dressed up, you are happy and positive and I am sure your H notices and sees this... this attracts your H to you... so really they are all telling you the same thing...
Some things I think the secret would suggest...
-no more talk of D, whether good or bad -create a home/environment for H to feel welcom and come back home to -positive thinking brings positive energies brings positive actions -when it rains it pours right... thats because we are in such a negative state we attract one bad luck day after another...
when and if you do read TS, dont take it too literal... have fun with it.
I think you should read the book... lol! i suck at explaning!
I am trying to handle no expectations... i told H in all of this, I am still hurtful with words and H still does not commincate his feelings... two killers in our M. When we talked about this he began opening up... kind of sweet. told him his silence of wanting to calm me bc i am pg is more hurtful than if he would just communicate and be honest w me even if the truth hurts.
obviously he is telling me NO PRESSURE and one day at a time... So i have to jut trust the process...
