Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

might help garner some trust with your W and your ability to support owning a a a home on your own.

This is a thought that has always crossed my mind. I agree with this statement.

What is best for you life now?

Moving back home... I miss my home.

I would simply say: W, now that I have secured a good paying job and have explored my options with the bank I have decided to move back in the house on X date.

Yes, I like this.

I was talking to a friend of mine this weekend. He and I are going to have lunch this week. He might have a job for me where he works...a very good job. If I can get this job I could be more comfortable affording to move back home. I might be able to move back with my current job but it would be tight.

I might wait until I have lunch with friend this week before I tell W that I will be moving back home. She's going to flip. She'll ask me all kinds of questions like, are you going to pay for the bills now since you'll be living there?, are we still selling the house?, if not, are you going to buy me out?, etc. My response will be, "Now that I have secured a good paying job, I have decided to move back into the house as this is best for me. Regarding your other questions, I will take this one step at a time." When I tell W this I will also bring up the joint money. This conversation will probably happen in a couple of weeks. I need to get some things in order first. One of my conerns with moving back is if W will come over one day when I'm not there and take any furniture, or worse, take the dogs. I would be surprised if she did but who knows. Legally, I don't think I can change the locks as she can still come in the house.

This friend was telling me he and his W are separating. He told me they were separated for two years a while back. They got back together a year ago and are separating again. He's going to tell me his story at lunch this week and offer any help/advice for me with my sitch. He was totally shocked when I told him about W and I. He said he knows how much I am "head over heels in love with W". He wants us to get back together as do all of my friends.

I saw another friend over the weekend. He said he and another friend of mine saw W at the gym a few weeks ago. She said hello to him and he had no idea who she was at first because she had lost so much weight. He tells her, "oh, you are mza8's W". He couldn't believe how thin she is. She said she could lose the weight when she wanted. I thought that was an interesting comment. Meaning she didn't want to the lose the weight before? Anyway, he introduced other friend to W and said this is mza'8 W. He said she never mentioned anything that we were separated. Their conversation lasted only a few minutes. I was surprised she didn't tell him that we are separated. She had been telling everyone. He was also shocked to hear the news.

So many people I tell about my sitch advise me to give her time and be patient. They all know my W pretty well.

W emailed me back early this morning replying to my email from Friday. Kind of surprised she emailed back so early. She must have replied as soon as she got to work. She said she emailed the agent last week to add the name sign and brochure box. I had asked her what other lanscaping ideas she was thinking of from her email. She said she wasn't sure of any other ideas other than to take out some tress. She said she thinks the trees make the yard smaller but said we'll wait and see. So I guess she agreed with me on this or at least she's not pushing the issue. She finished by saying she hoped the agent had an open house this past weekend. That was about it.

Her conversations are still only about the house. One boundary that I am thinking of telling her is to include me on all emails to the agent about the house. I should be included on those emails.

This agent hasn't done a lot of what she promised. She hasn't responded to W about the name sign yet. The agent doesn't contact us when there is a showing or with any feedback. I also know the agent did not have an open house this past weekend. The agent said she was going to have an open house every other weekend and that hasn't happened. My W is the kind of person that when you tell her you're going to do something, she will hold you to it. Big mistake by agent to commit to something and not stick to it. I've got to think that this is irritating W. I've been keeping quiet and watching it happen as this is my W's decision to use this agent. Don't know if I should tell W that agent isn't doing a good job or just let it go for now. Feel like telling my W that when this contract with agent expires, we might need to reevaluate and possibly choose a different agent. However, why would I care anyway as I don't want to sell the house if I can afford it? Part of me thinks the agent isn't doing too much because she thinks we might want to keep the house. Either way I don't really care if the agent does her job or not.

Anyway, I might email W back later today just to acknowledge her email and that's it. Some of my friends like the idea of me texting W this Wednesday (W and my 20 year anniversary of our first date) and just say, "thinking of you today". That's it, nothing more. I don't know. I'd like to keep some emotion/feeling in this sitch with W. That's pretty much the update from the weekend.