Whit, I haven't even been asked for any invites in 18 months. I did invite H to D's 13th Bday party. It was a skating party for just her and her friends and he never showed. Then both of my children have the same Bday so I invited H to the house for cake just for the four of us and he said no to that too.
That was back in October towards the end of the month then on Nov. 15th he calls late at night and asks if I would make him my Mac and Cheese and he would pick it up when he dropped our D13 off and I go and say yes. It wasn't done by the time he dropped her off so I had her call him when it was done and ask him if he wanted me and her to drop it off of just me and he said it didn't matter.
So I go alone, and one thing led to another and I thought things were getting better for us and that he was seeing the light but NOPE. He just went right back into the tunnel, so I do know how it is to just jump in and want to be with them.
My point is that with in 3 to 4 weeks he had different feelings or emotions towards me. I don't get how they are either. How I wish we could get into their heads and know what they are thinking and help them already.
My H doesn't see things like a lot of other people do here or maybe it's because he is afraid things will get back to his parents but to not go to your own child's party.
I see a lot of people on this board that get together for things that are separated or divorced, but not mine. Just wish I knew why mine isn't like them. It really hurts the kids.
But he was raised like that, so I guess maybe that might have something to do with it. His parents divorced when he was 2 and his father married the OW. So his parents never got along after that, I can't believe how much they hate each other to be honest. And I don't want it to be that way with our D but I don't know how to fix that either.
I didn't find this website until we were 5 months separated. Wish I would have found it sooner. I made way to many mistakes.....begging, pleading, you name it.
Well, that didn't take too long, I thought I would be sad again tonight, but within hours I'm sad again already.
